On choosing yourself and fitness
Women: the emotional bearers of this world- we're expected to take on emotional baggage whether we can handle it or not. We could be working in high-stress, toxic environments that demoralize us. We could be struggling academically in school. We could be harboring romantic relationships with partners who suck the positivity from our lives. We could be the thread that holds a broken family together.
Because we're socialized as women to be nurturers, we're expected to come into unpleasant situations and make them more pleasant. We're taught to take what life throws at us without 'b*itching' about it, because nobody loves a b*tch, so we should be pleasant. We learn to fix and fix and fix some more, but is there energy left over to fix ourselves?
My mom always served her piece of chicken last. When I asked why, she said that it was her role as a mother and wife - to allow everyone else to have the best first.
Not often enough are we told as women that we each deserve the very best - a human birthright. Too little are we told that we should pursue happiness and love in romance - that we should do work that is uplifting and meaningful. That we should feel empowered each and every day to follow our hearts.
So what does this feminist rant has to do with fitness?
Fitness is essentially a choice to pursue the improvement of one’s body, one’s self, no matter what. If we find ourselves in toxic environments, we're drained both emotionally and mentally. What tends to suffer most after giving too much of our best to the world is personal care. It shouldn't come as a surprise that emotional and mental health issues sometimes manifests in the physical body. For instance, trauma and abuse dating as far back as childhood is often associated with morbid obesity. Similarly, clinically depressed patients often record extreme weight loss or weight gain. Subconsciously, eating (or not eating) becomes a coping mechanism. What's was going on in the inside manifests itself outwardly.
After all, it's not about what you're eating, it's about what's eating you.
When you're taking up a fitness lifestyle, it is important to assess what's happening internally that could be a barrier to health. We all know what to eat and how often we should exercise. However, could emotional stress be causing you to make unhealthy food choices? Could self-esteem issues be stopping you from seeing yourself as a goddess who deserves self-care? Could self-doubt be preventing you from venturing into this scary journey of body transformation?
Food for thought...